You're a modern man. You know you're in for the ride of your life. Here are some tips on being her right hand man during the hours she'll need you most.

Be present. Seems obvious, doesn't it? Through labor and delivery you are the one to go get some water, talk her down from extreme pain, walk the halls during contractions - not to mention kiss her hair, rub her feet, and support her emotionally, too. You can leave the big stuff to the hospital staff, but it's important that you're there to share the first few moments of life together.

Don't be shy with doctors and nurses. Chris from Boston was frustrated with the doctors and nurses for not being more forthright with the info while his wife was in the hospital, then he learned to be assertive. "Instead of getting upset about it later, if they said something I didn't understand, or didn't say anything at all, I'd say, 'But why?' or, 'Could you explain that to us in detail?' It made me feel much more in control."

Pack for you, too. Bring toiletries so you can welcome guests after a long night of pushing and sweating. Comfy clothes, an extra shirt, and a book in case things get long might not hurt, either.

Learn all you can. Informed coaches are the best coaches. Read up on what happens during labor and delivery, and familiarize yourself with the procedures that you're expecting your wife to have done. That way, if something doesn't go as planned (emergency C-section, epidural at the last minute), you can ask the right questions and get the best care for your partner.

Keep her distracted. Although it's not always true, labor can be long and exhausting. Use the exercises you learned in your birthing class to help her remain focused when she's in a great deal of pain. Guide her through them, be in charge - you are the coach, after all.

Be ready to make decisions. She's weak, tired, and in a lot of pain. There may be some situations where it is up to you to ask the questions, make decisions, and get her the proper care. Again, a great reason to brush up on your birthing info.

Be her cheerleader. Now this, this is a very important job. Tell her she can do it when you're in the throes of contractions. Talk about hopes and fears and know her wishes (drugs or no drugs) before you enter the hospital. You may have to speak for her, you will definitely take care of her, and most of all, you will want to support her from the first contraction to the ride home.